The Scarlett Letter

March 31, 2010

Give Me a Ring!

Filed under: Uncategorized — missscarlett19 @ 5:14 pm
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I’ve been talking to this dude now for more than two months now. He’s long distance, but whatever. We talk on the phone about 2 or 3 times a week. He’ll text me in the morning wishing me a good day. He’ll text me at lunch to check up on me. Then when he gets home, he’ll IM me and we’ll chat. We communicate a lot. At this point you may be asking “So what’s the problem Miss Scarlett?” The problem is that he hardly EVER calls me! When we talk on the phone, nine times out of ten, it has been MY fingers doing the dialing! Like I said, he does regularly initiate contact via other formats, but rarely picks up the phone to call instead of texting.

Why is it that men fear the phone? Now I know what you might be saying: “If he’s not calling you, then he’s just not that into you.” Well, every time I talk to him, he’s VERY excited to talk to me. One time I didn’t call or text him at all for almost two weeks. He texted me a couple of times during that period. But when I finally broke down and replied to a text, he was so glad to hear from me, afraid that I’d moved on to someone else. (Well, I HAD met someone new, but that didn’t turn out so well!) A couple of hours after my text, he began to be a man and flaunt his peacock feathers and sent me a picture of him after his workout at the gym. The next day, he texted me from sun-up to sun-down. But still. No phone call. I don’t think he had another chick because I’ve dealt with those losers who always want to call me back in 30 minutes when they’re in the car. Finally, a couple of days later, I text him and say “I appreciate the texts & IMs, but I really need you to call me sometime… But not tonight.” The next day, at 5pm, he called me! Things have been pretty rosy ever since.

So lesson of the day guys, give a girl a ring every now and then. It’s an important way to show us you care and that you’re thinking about us too. Now, don’t call TOO much early on because that’s just creepy and stalkerish. Then we’ll have to go all Lady Gaga and Beyonce on you and ask you to “Stop Tele-phonin’ Meeeee!!!”



  1. Well, I hate talking to people on the phone. It ties me up. Also, the guy might have thought that it’s your preferred method of conversation. Glad that you were able to be direct and just ask for what you want.

    Comment by Tyrone — April 1, 2010 @ 12:13 pm | Reply

  2. Yeah, I get that through texting you can just drop a quick note and go, but I think men should every now and then just devote at least 10-15 mins to talk to us without distractions. It means a lot!

    Comment by missscarlett19 — April 1, 2010 @ 12:29 pm | Reply

  3. 10-15 minutes *a day*?

    Comment by Tyrone M. — April 1, 2010 @ 6:32 pm | Reply

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